How to Talk to Teachers About Your Child's Speech Delay
Discovering that your child has a speech delay can feel overwhelming, and knowing how to communicate that concern to your child's teacher might make you feel anxious or unsure.
Many parents in Los Angeles face this same challenge, wondering how to start the conversation without seeming overprotective or how to ensure their child gets the support they deserve. Here's the truth: teachers are your partners in your child's development, and most are eager to help when they understand what's needed. Whether your child struggles with speech clarity, vocabulary development, or expressing themselves in the classroom, having an open conversation with their teacher is one of the most important steps you can take. Los Angeles offers exceptional school resources and a wealth of professional speech therapy options, making it easier than ever to build a team around your child's success. This guide walks you through exactly how to talk to teachers about your child's speech delay, so you can feel confident, prepared, and heard.
Why Communication With Teachers Matters
Your child spends six to eight hours a day in school, which means teachers observe language and communication skills that you might not see at home. This unique vantage point makes them invaluable partners in supporting your child's speech development.
When you communicate openly with teachers about a speech delay, several important things happen. First, teachers become aware of specific challenges and can adjust their classroom strategies to support your child. For example, a teacher might give your child more time to answer questions, use visual supports, or pair them with a peer who models clear speech. Second, regular communication allows you and the teacher to track progress together, noticing improvements that might take weeks or months to become obvious. Third, when teachers understand that your child is receiving speech therapy (whether through the school or an outside provider), they can reinforce therapeutic strategies throughout the day, making therapy far more effective.
Additionally, your teacher might be the first person to formally document concerns about your child's speech, which can lead to an evaluation through the school district. This is often the gateway to accessing free speech-language pathology services or developing an Individualized Education Program (IEP). The more clearly and early you communicate, the sooner your child can receive the support they need.
How to Prepare for the Conversation
Before you meet with your child's teacher, gather the information and documentation that will help the conversation flow naturally and productively.
What Information to Bring
Bring any notes or records you have about your child's speech development. This might include notes from your pediatrician, reports from a previous speech therapist, a list of specific words or sounds your child struggles with, or observations about when your child communicates most and least effectively. If your child is currently receiving speech therapy outside of school, bring contact information for that speech-language pathologist (SLP), as this allows the school to coordinate care. Bring dates of any prior evaluations or consultations, as this timeline helps teachers understand the bigger picture.
Signs of Speech Delay to Mention
Be specific about what you've observed. Instead of saying "my child doesn't talk much," describe the actual delay: Does your child struggle with sound clarity (like saying "w" instead of "r")? Do they use fewer words than peers their age? Do they have difficulty understanding directions or responding to questions? Do they avoid speaking in certain situations? Do they repeat phrases without understanding? The more concrete your examples, the easier it is for the teacher to recognize these patterns in the classroom.
Questions to Ask Your Teacher
Prepare a short list of open-ended questions that invite the teacher to share their observations. Ask how your child participates in class discussions, whether they volunteer to speak, how they communicate with peers during group work, and if the teacher has noticed any difficulty with following directions or expressing needs. These questions help you understand how your child's speech delay shows up in a school environment, which may differ from home behavior.
Example Discussion Starters
Plan how you'll introduce the topic. You might say: "I'd like to talk with you about how my child is communicating in class" or "I've noticed some speech challenges at home, and I'd like to know if you've observed anything similar in the classroom." This invites collaboration rather than accusation.
What to Say During the Conversation
Here's a practical script you can adapt to your situation:
Opening the Conversation
Start with a positive frame: "Thank you for taking the time to meet with me. I really appreciate everything you're doing for [child's name]. I wanted to talk with you about something I've noticed regarding their communication."
Describe Your Observations
"I want to understand how my child communicates in the classroom. At home, I've noticed some challenges with [specific examples: clarity, understanding questions, using complex sentences]. For instance, [give one concrete example]. Have you noticed anything similar at school?"
Invite the Teacher's Input
"I'm curious about your perspective. Have you noticed challenges with clarity, vocabulary, or following directions? Do you see [child's name] speaking with peers? When they do speak, how do other students respond?"
Share What You're Already Doing
"We've been [working with a speech therapist / monitoring this at home / discussing this with our pediatrician]. I'd love to know if there are ways we can support [child's name] together and reinforce what they're learning."
Propose Next Steps
"I think it would be helpful to explore a formal speech evaluation through the school. Could you tell me how to request that? Is there someone in the school office I should contact?" Or: "If you've also noticed concerns, would you be willing to help document these observations for a school evaluation?"
Closing
"I really value your partnership in helping [child's name] succeed. Can we plan to check in again in [timeframe]? I'd also like to share my speech therapist's contact information so you can coordinate if needed."
How Teachers and Speech Therapists Collaborate
Understanding the school system's role in speech support helps you navigate options for your child.
Individualized Education Programs (IEPs) and 504 Plans
If your child has a diagnosed speech delay or disorder that impacts learning, they may qualify for an IEP, a legally binding document that outlines your child's goals, services (including speech therapy), and accommodations. A 504 plan is less intensive but still provides classroom supports. Both require formal evaluation. Public schools in Los Angeles can evaluate your child for free through the Special Education department, though charter and private schools have different policies.
School-Based Speech-Language Pathologists
Many Los Angeles schools employ SLPs who work directly with students. If your child qualifies for services, they may receive speech therapy at school, ranging from one to five sessions per week depending on need. This is free to families but may have wait lists or availability constraints.
Referral Process
When you and the teacher agree that evaluation is warranted, ask how to formally request it. In Los Angeles Unified School District (LAUSD), you typically contact the school's Special Education office or your child's counselor to request an evaluation. The process takes about 60 days, and you'll be invited to an IEP meeting where results are shared.
Private vs. School Services
Some families opt for private speech therapy alongside or instead of school services. [link: Speech Therapy Los Angeles] providers offer more flexibility, specialized approaches, and often shorter wait times, though they come at a cost. Others choose teletherapy for convenience. You don't have to choose one path—many families use both school and private services for maximum benefit.
When to Seek Outside Speech Therapy
While school-based speech therapy is valuable, there are circumstances where families benefit from private options like Echo Speech Therapy in Los Angeles.
If your child's school has a long waiting list, doesn't offer services for your child's specific needs, or your child isn't qualifying for school services yet but you see concerning delays, private speech therapy provides earlier intervention. Research shows that early intervention leads to faster progress, so waiting for a school evaluation might not serve your child best.
Additionally, if you notice that school services alone aren't creating the progress you'd hoped for, a private SLP can offer complementary or more intensive therapy. Speech Therapy for Speech Delay specialists in Los Angeles often work with school SLPs, sharing strategies so everyone supports your child consistently.
Some families prefer private options for specific expertise—for instance, if your child has a stutter, apraxia, or articulation challenges requiring specialized knowledge. Many Los Angeles-based therapists offer both in-person and teletherapy options, accommodating different schedules and comfort levels.
Practical Communication Templates
Sample Email to a Teacher
Subject: Following Up on [Child's Name]'s Communication Development
Dear [Teacher's Name],
I appreciated our recent conversation about [child's name]'s communication. As I mentioned, I've noticed some speech delay at home and wanted to check if you've observed similar challenges in the classroom. Could we schedule a brief meeting to discuss your observations and explore what support might help? I'd also like to share information about a speech therapist we're working with [if applicable], as I believe coordinating efforts will be most beneficial.
Thank you for your partnership.
Best regards, [Your Name]
Sample Meeting Request
"I'd like to request a brief 15-minute meeting to discuss [child's name]'s communication development. I've noticed some speech concerns and want to partner with you on support strategies. Would next week work for you?"
Sample Follow-Up Message
Thank you for taking the time to meet. Your insights about [child's name]'s classroom communication were really helpful. I'm going to reach out to the school office this week about requesting a speech evaluation. I'll keep you updated as we move forward, and I'll share my speech therapist's information once we connect with someone. I appreciate your ongoing support.
Frequently Asked Questions
What do I say if the teacher disagrees with me about the speech delay?
Stay calm and respectful. Say: "I appreciate your perspective. I've noticed [specific examples] at home and want to make sure we're not missing an opportunity for support. Would you be open to a formal evaluation? That way, a professional can assess whether there's a concern." Request the evaluation anyway—if the teacher's observations differ from yours, the formal assessment will clarify. Sometimes delays show up more in school or more at home, so both perspectives matter.
Can a school diagnose a speech delay?
School speech-language pathologists can evaluate your child and determine whether they qualify for services under special education, but they may not provide a clinical diagnosis. If you need a clinical diagnosis for insurance, medical records, or other reasons, you may need to see a private speech therapist or have your pediatrician refer you to a specialist.
Does speech therapy need to happen outside of school?
No, but it depends on availability and your child's needs. School-based services are free and often sufficient. However, if there's a waiting list, your child isn't qualifying for services, or you want more intensive support, private speech therapy is an excellent choice. Many families combine both.
How often should I communicate with the teacher about progress?
Check in monthly or every few weeks initially, then adjust based on what feels right. A quick email or brief chat is enough—you don't need lengthy conversations. As progress becomes visible, you might check in less frequently.
What if my child's teacher seems dismissive or unwilling to help?
If communication feels blocked, involve your school's administration, counselor, or Special Education coordinator. You can also formally request an evaluation regardless of the teacher's opinion—that's your right as a parent. If you feel unheard, consider private evaluation or seek an advocate to support you through the school process.
Conclusion
Talking to your child's teacher about a speech delay doesn't have to be intimidating. By preparing thoughtfully, communicating clearly, and approaching the conversation as a partnership, you set the stage for genuine collaboration. Teachers want your children to succeed, and most are grateful when parents share important information about their development and needs.
Remember that early communication and early intervention create the best outcomes. The sooner your child receives support—whether through school, private therapy, or both—the sooner they'll develop confidence in their communication skills. Los Angeles parents have access to outstanding school resources and skilled speech therapy professionals, so you're not alone in this journey.
Your voice as a parent matters. Trust your observations, advocate gently but firmly for your child, and work alongside educators to build a team that supports your child's success. With open communication and consistent support, your child can make remarkable progress.
Róisín Ching, MS, CCC-SLP
Owner and Director
Róisín (pronounced ROsheen) is a licensed speech and language pathologist with over 15 years of experience working in the field. Róisín believes in therapy that is fun, dynamic, respectful, and promotes growth. She enjoys working with adults and children and encourages family members to be a part of the therapeutic process when possible. Her favorite part of her job is connecting with clients and it shows in her sessions!
Education
BA, Spanish Literature and Cultural Studies Occidental College
MS, Communication Disorders California State University, Northridge
License & Affiliations
California Licensed Speech-Language Pathologist, license #18760
American Speech Language Hearing Association (ASHA)
Certificate of Clinical Competence (CCC), license #12151795
California Speech and Hearing Association (CSHA)
Giselle Marquez, SLPA
Giselle is a licensed Speech Language Pathology Assistant (SLPA). She holds an associate’s degree in Speech Language Pathology Assistant and a bachelor’s degree in Child Development, along with a teaching credential in English for 6th-12th grade.
Giselle's passion for working with children began during her time as an assistant preschool teacher, where she discovered the field of speech therapy and decided to pursue it as a career. In her free time, Giselle enjoys relaxing at home with her partner, Brian and dogs, Pebbles and Bubba.
Education
AA, Speech Language Pathology Assistant Program, Pasadena City College
AA, Culinary Arts, Pasadena City College
BA, Child Development, California State University of Los Angeles
License
Speech-Language Pathology Assistant, CA License #8967